Thinking of an idea to change the world for the better? I suggest you put it into action. The act of forgiveness can affect our lives when showing kindness to strangers or people you have come to know, especially when dealing with your colleagues in the office. Sometimes it can be contagious and create an unexpected phenomenon.
The first company I worked for, was filled with 60% British colleagues, a mixture of some 30% international colleagues from various countries, and 10% Thai employees. Due to cultural differences, working in a multinational company can create arguments and daily conflict. One day, a British colleague with whom I never had a conversation with, stormed into my office and complaint on things I did not do. He thought I was the one who issued that certain letter to the client and it was a total mess. He cursed and said many things. I tried to explain but he refused to listen. When he found out the truth the next day, he came to my office and apologized. It was spontaneous when I told him, “it’s okay, it was yesterday”. That was a turning point when we both realized we do not hold grudges and move on. Leave the conflict behind and focus on the work itself. Because if we give importance to all little details and gossip in the office, the organization would not be as productive as it should be.
The result of that encounter? I gained respect from my colleagues and we worked together in harmony. When you are optimistic, people will judge you. Sometimes you will encounter disgraceful and unappreciated people along the way and be cautious of those taking advantage from you. They know that you will forgive, that is when they keep on doing harm against you or continue with their bad attitudes and behaviour. Learning to “Forgive” the unforgivable is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven but you deserve to be free of this evil.
Forgiveness Tips:
1. Realize that the hate you feel toward your opponent does not harm him or her in the way that you want.
2. Understand that the best revenge against your enemies is to live a successful and happy life.
3. The second best revenge is to turn the evil into something good.
4. List the good things that emerged as a result of this awful experience.
5. Seek for the helpers.
6. Be compassionate with yourself.
7.The aramaic word for “forgive” means literally to “untie.”
8. Learn to balance trust with wisdom.
9. When your enemy and his or her evil actions come to mind, send him or her a blessing. Wish your enemy well.
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” Thomas Szasz
